To
try and make friends is the first thing to do if you are alone in
this world, or feel as if you are, because in reality none of us are
completely alone. There is always some human contact throughout your
day whether it be talking to your butcher or helping an old lady onto
a bus, but most important is not to get nervous about it. You must
first be happy with yourself. Make your home as comfortable and as
cosy as you can. Always put some nice music on in the background when
you are there. Pamper yourself a lot. Dress as nicely as you can and
feel happy with the image that you see in your mirror. Remember
that for others to love you, you first have to love yourself.
You
must also believe in yourself and know that you have something to
offer to other people. All the people in the world have had
experiences, some bad and some good, and so all of us have something
to contribute to another person which we have learnt through our
experiences. Feel confident that you could help another person
if they needed it.
Once
you've done all that, the best thing is to try and join a course or a
club. A course is probably the best idea. For example, if you have
always liked the idea of being able to paint, well join an art
class. Most of these sort of classes exist in your town and
they don't cost very much to join. You will always meet other
people in the classes there, who maybe joined precisely because they
felt the same way as you do, and as you paint and learn you can
chat to them and find out a little bit more about them. If you
click with someone, in other words you find that one or some of the
people that you talk to have something in common with you, you can
always ask whether they would like to have a coffee after the class
to discuss the points that you have learnt or anything that takes
your fancy to talk about.
If you
just let things happen, one step will lead to another and I am sure
you will end up making a friend.
Just
remember also, that to make friends each one has to offer something
to the other. If the new friend that you have made has a
problem, really try to help him/her with any advice that you can
give. Make them feel that they can rely on you and that you are
a good person to not only talk with but that you will also
listen to them. Listening is a very important part of
friendship.
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